How to use astrology to craft a self-care rhythm that truly nourishes you
Self-care has become a buzzword that's associated with meditation, yoga, spa's, massages, and other forms of pampering. But what if those things don't actually feel great to you? In this post, I'd like to explore the personal meaning of self-care and talk about the 3 reasons your self-care routine might be failing you:
1. You aren't practicing self-care often enough.
2. You are practicing acts of self-care that work for someone else, but don't necessarily work for you.
3. You aren't in the self-care state of mind.
I'm all about self-care that's meaningful, personal, and deeply nourishing. Let's chat about how you can craft a routine that's all of this and more, no matter how busy or spread thin you are. No prior knowledge of astrology is necessary at all!
Self-Care is not just for Sundays
I spend quite a bit of my time on Instagram these days and besides all the gorgeous eye candy and rad people I've been meeting on there, I love discovering all the hashtags. They are these unifying forces that bring people who are on the same wavelength together, revealing the spirit and trends of the zeitgeist.
One of the hashtags I have come across is #selfcaresunday, a tag used by folks to share their weekly acts of self-love, mostly in the form of pampering with a face mask, manicure, or a good read. I really love these posts because people are honoring themselves and supporting one another in doing so.
There is one thing that bothers me about #selfcaresunday, though. Instead of just Sunday, I would like to see #selfcareEVERYDAY.
Self-care is something we need to practice all the time, not just once a week or on special occasions. You might be thinking, who has time for that?!
You definitely don't have time for a manicure or face mask everyday, that I know for sure. But self-care is so much more than just luxurious pampering.
Self-care is a state of mind, a way of life.
There are a few reasons why you might not feel nourished by your current self-care routine, and a major one is that you are simply not practicing self-care often enough.
Don't just save it for Sundays, do it right now. Sit up a little straighter, stretch a little more often, breathe deeply and surround yourself with the things that make you feel really good.
Enter the self-care state of mind: tune into your body, mind, and spirit often and listen to what you need right now. The tiniest tweaks can make a major difference in your overall well-being and happiness.
I like to ask myself a few questions throughout the day to make sure I'm dwelling in the self-care zone:
- Is this going to nourish me?
- Am I comfortable?
- Is what I am doing right now serving my best self?
- What can I do right now to make myself feel right?
When you enter this mindset, self-care becomes a part of your daily rhythm just as much as any other responsibility or habit, and will soon become second nature.
You'll feel a major difference in your day when you treat yourself with the love you would give to any other person in your care.
Crafting a Custom Self-Care Rhythm for Yourself
Once you begin to integrate the self-care state of mind into your every day, you can start cultivating a self-care rhythm that truly nourishes you. One of my favorite ways to understand my needs and what activities or things deeply nourish me is to use my birth chart as a guide.
You might be thinking, "why would I need to look at my astrological birth chart to know my own needs?" You should know yourself the best, right?
Unfortunately, in our day and age we are so inundated by advertising and marketing that's designed to specifically undermine our own self-knowledge so that we feel we need a particular product (that often is not even good for us!)
That's why your birth chart is such a great tool for returning to your true self and looking past all of the confusing messages we have been taught throughout our lives about what we need.
How exactly can we use the birth chart to understand our self better, and therefore our needs and which self-care activities are most beneficial to us individually?
There are a few ways to begin. Firstly, I love to work with the elements (Fire, Earth, Air, and Water) of your chart to gain an understanding of your fundamental energetic makeup. It's sort of like the groundwork for gauging how you best function in the world, as well as understanding any areas that might be out of balance that need some TLC.
For example, you might have mostly Fire and Air energy (in Ayurveda, this would loosely translate to Pitta/Vata). *You can check your elemental balance easily based on your birth date and time here.* Once you are aware of that, you can then choose activities that are specifically going to nourish and feed the Fire and Air element that is strong within you.
Let me give you a real-life example (from the website linked above):
This person has mostly fire, followed by Earth, then Water and Air being the least present on her chart. So, we would say she is a Fire dominant woman.
The Fire element is passionate, energetic, active, and creative. People with a strong Fire element need to express this energy in order to feel happy and alive. If it's suppressed, it can lead to depression, anxiety, confusion, and other problems that manifest on all levels - mind, body, and spirit.
You might also feel the need to balance yourself by including some self-care activities that nourish the other elements in you. It's a reflective process and a journey.
Some acts of self-care that would feed the Fire element include:
-making sure to "burn off" extra energy daily through exercise that you enjoy and give you the chance to vent/let off some steam. Choose the exercise options that truly make you feel good, not the trends or what you think you 'should' be doing. Listen to your body and notice how you feel. You should feel uplifted, glowing, flowing, and vital through this activity.
-working on building healthy boundaries between work and "play." Sometimes Fire people can be workaholics and need to learn to give themselves time to just be. Setting aside time each day to detach from all work-related engagements would be healing for Fire people.
-carving out time each week for soulful creativity is vital to Fire folks. Finding your true passions and sharing them with the world is a form of self-care.
We can go deeper into your own unique birth chart to get more and more specific ideas and insight into the self-care activities that would give you the most "bang for your buck." Just remember:
Choose self-care activities that truly nourish YOU - not someone else. Choose activities that speak to you, fuel you, and give you what you need to shine your brightest everyday. And don't forget to do them all the time!